It's Game Time (and not the electronic kind!)

The stereotype is (and is mostly true) that kids on the Spectrum LOVE video games. Many would rather stare at a computer screen or video game screen than anything else in the world. While this does keep them content and occupied, it is not in the child's best interest to let him be self-absorbed like this for hours.

Video games, television, and other electronics let your child disengage from the world. He doesn't have to think about or consider others or interact with reality. Kids with spectrum disorders need social skills practice at every available opportunity. So, let's look at gaming a bit differently...

Board games. I know you are thinking, "Yeah right, like that is going to happen.", but it can. It may be a struggle at first, but if you make it fun and appealing, it will be awesome!

Start by researching to find a board game similar to one of your child's favorite games. For example, Angry Birds has board games based off the App games. There are other games featuring Star Wars characters, UNO featuring Diary of A Wimpy Kid, etc.

Then, take your child with you to the store to pick out the game. This way even though it is your idea, he has ownership of the decision.

Next plan a family time party. Have a few healthy snack favorites. Have a friend over. Whatever you think will help. Make it anxiety free!

Playing board games is an excellent way to encourage social skills among family and peers. Everyone has to sit together and pay attention to the same thing. This is rare in our smart phone world. It will help your family have fun together and bond in new ways, while helping your child on the Spectrum with social skills.

 During the game you can be aware of what is going on and use teachable moments to encourage proper social interaction and to work on theory of mind skills.

After your child realizes the games are fun, it doesn't have to be a big production every time. You will have him hooked. Then you can encourage these games for school rewards and play dates with friends instead of computer or video games time.

Social Skills and High School

Most high school students feel awkward and nervous at times. They fret about what to wear and who to sit with at lunch. They want a date for the Homecoming dance and a best friend to hang with after school. 

Most students with Asperger's want these same things;however, they have no idea on where to start to make these things happen. How do we know what clothes are cool or how to ask someone on a date? We learn for others- from observing how these social situations work. Asperger's syndrome lessens the ability to pick up on and understand these social skills. So, we must teach these to our kids.

How do we teach these? We teach social skills through modeling, role play, and with a great deal of patience. One cool way to do this is to video peers role playing certain situations and watch the video with your child and then talk about . Also use "teachable moments" that occur everyday to point out social skills- like how to make small talk, how to act in a restaurant, or how to ask a friend over to hang out.

Always be patient and encouraging. Remember that your child wants to be better at this, but that it is very difficult to understand. If you need ideas on a specific social skill, email me for tips.